‘Girl… WHAT??’: Woman tries to hijack her cousin's wedding for a gender reveal, gets taught a lesson in humility by an angry bride

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Oct 6, 2024 2:00 PM EDT

Society gathered together one day and decided that brides have a free pass on their wedding day. It's their big day, if they want 25 live doves released behind them when they do a grand entrance, so be it. However, the woman in our next story seemed to view her cousin's wedding day as an opportunity to make it all about herself–a big no-no in the unwritten wedding etiquette rules. 

After 2 years of meticulous wedding planning, u/WickedYummy had it all put together. She had her first dance picked out, her bridesmaid dresses, and her color scheme perfectly poised to have the greatest wedding ever… That is until her selfish cousin stepped in. Seeing any family gathering as a stage to shine a spotlight upon herself, the cousin audaciously asked the bride if she could turn this beautiful, fully planned wedding into a gender reveal party. 

Girl… What? Although her family had mixed reactions on the right way to respond to this, the bride fervently put her foot down, almost shouting, 'NO' right in her cousins face. Hopefully she'll be hiring some security guards on the night of her nuptials. 

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    AITA for refusing to let my cousin use my wedding as a "gender reveal" for her baby???
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    Okay y'all, buckle up because this is WILD. I (25F) am getting married in a few months and I've been planning this day for almost TWO years. My fiancé and I have been dreaming of this perfect outdoor ceremony
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    with all of our closest family and friends, and honestly, I couldn't be more excited. BUT here's where things get insane. So, a little backstory-my cousin (27F) is pregnant with her second child. Great, right?
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    Except, she's ALWAYS making everything about herself. You know the type... like at every family event, she's got to be the center of attention. I love her, but it's honestly exhausting.
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    ANYWAY, fast forward to last week when she calls me and casually drops, "Hey, I was thinking, wouldn't it be AMAZING if we did the gender reveal at your wedding??"
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    I'm sitting there like, girl... WHAT??? She starts going off about how perfect it would be to have a 'big moment' where everyone finds out the gender during my reception, and how I should "totally do a balloon release or confetti pop for her." As if this is HER day!
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    I tried to be nice and told her that, uh, my wedding wasn't really the best time for that and that I kind of wanted the day to be, you know, about me and my fiancé. I thought she'd
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    understand, but she got . She started accusing me of "stealing her joy" and "not being supportive" and said I was "selfish" for not wanting to share the spotlight on my wedding day.
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    Now my whole family is divided. My aunt (her mom) is telling me I'm being a bridezilla and should "just let her have this moment," but my friends are like "uh, girl NO." Even my fiancé is like, "Why is this even a conversation???"
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    So now I'm sitting here wondering, AITA for not wanting a gender reveal to hijack MY WEDDING???
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    kurokomainu Uninvite her. Tell any flying monkeys that, with no apologies whatsoever, this is your wedding and not her gender reveal. She is quite welcome to organize whatever event she wants for her
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    gender reveal, but you are not allowing her to hijack your wedding so she doesn't have to go to the trouble and expense. For them to even cast a shadow over your wedding day with this massive entitlement is a damned cheek.
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    SabrinaSpellman1 Plot twist! OP could arrange a nice gender reveal party for her, and then show up in a wedding dress and get married there and then as a surprise while she's about to pop her balloon! And OP can steal HER thunder instead.
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    But of course I'm joking. OP is NTA and I worry the cousin is just going to go ahead and do it anyway, or at the very least make an announcement about the baby. If OP can't get security she needs a group of supporting family/friends watching the cousin like a hawk. Damage control! Have a lovely wedding and blissful marriage OP!!
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    SuluSpeaks I think this is a really good point. "How would you like it if...? Not that it will get through to her, though.
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    Cool Till 3114 You know that you're not. You have to uninvite her and hire security. Sorry about your family drama at your wedding, cause this girl is going to do this with or without your permission.
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    Few-Knowledge-899 Yes, it's unfair for your cousin to expect you to share that spotlight. Stand your ground your wedding isn't the time for her gender reveal.
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    Important Sector 503 you are so much NTA I don't even know how this is a conversation. But I DO know how your cousin ended up being such a nightmare- her mum enables her godawful behaviour. I'd be assigning babysitters to both of them at the wedding to make sure they don't try to pull something anyways.
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    Wicked Yummy. OP Thx a lot to all of u for responding, fr this means SO much to me!! I was seriously feeling lost and lowkey thinking I was the bad one here, but now I'm realizing I'm not crazy!! So many of you get it, and I really appreciate all the advice and support. Y'all are the best fr!!
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